Change for your mind
'Tis the season to lose sight of everything important and become overwhelmed by, well, what is depicted in the picture: holiday stress for all the wrong reasons.
And so we have to ask ourselves, when facing holiday stress: What are the good things?
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You can turn anything into a problem: Sure, like holiday stress. The buying. The arranging events. The attending events that were arranged. The seeing family, if that is difficult for you. The travel. All of it.
For each one of these hassle conditions (and they can be just that), if you choose to stay happy and allow yourself some cognitive flexibility around what the positives of the holidays really are.
Here's a short list. Maybe you can make one of your own. Since I gave 5 above, and I owe "5 Reasons To Be Grateful" for each one, I will list 25.
What about right now can be seen as good?
1. How to afford gifts, or what to buy someone, is a problem that much of the world would like to have but does not.
2. There are so many people who are isolated, that even seeing annoying family members is a luxury compared to that.
3. Arranging events gives you the power to set the tone and the time.
4. Attending events, instead of arranging them, means you get to decide when and how to leave them.
5. There are actually reasons to celebrate outside of consumerism, such as getting to see those you love whom you cannot regularly see.
6. Even more importantly for many people around the world, this time of year has some serious and meaningful religious, spiritual and community-based considerations. If you're sick of the consumerism, you are only focusing on part of the story.
7. For all the terrible things going on in the world, we are living in relative peace and safety. The hassle of the holidays is a mere luxury to have for most of the world.
8. Christmas is a story about how much God loves the world. How could anyone feel badly about that?
9. Hanukkah is a story of the heroics of the Jewish people in a time of trials and tribulations. It speaks of God's favor and a people's courage in adversity.
10. Kwanzaa is a celebration of self-reliance and being proud of heritage.
11. Human Light Day (Atheists/Secular Humanists) is a celebration of what is good about human nature even outside the consideration of a religious context.
12. The darkest time of the year is made beautiful by people, who add light to it.
13. People can be generally friendlier this time of year, with well-wishes and special considerations like greeting cards and treats.
14. People invite their friends, co-workers, and neighbors over. As psychologists are increasingly identifying isolation as a major mental health problem among people with certain problems, the fact that people open up their homes and get to know one another is extremely important and powerful. It can even be regarded as medicine.
15. Elf on a shelf is annoying, but hilarious.
16. People still actually send greeting cards on this holiday, which is good for the US Postal Service.
17. The economy is greatly strengthened by a great deal of activity. Think of all the industries that benefit.
18. Milk and cookies left out for Santa means someone had to go buy milk and either make or buy cookies, and none of that is bad.
19. Holiday music can be heard, including some of your favorites.
20. Holiday music will soon end, including some of your least favorites.
21. It's fun to drive through neighborhoods to look at all the lights.
22. Eggnog. The good kind.
23. With all that's happening in the news, people might actually behave themselves at office holiday parties.
24. People get their chimneys swept out this time of year, which enhances neighborhood fire safety.
25. People take some time off from work around this time.
Any problem can be reframed positively, and having the cognitive flexibility to do so is the sign of a healthy person.
Happy Holidays! - Your friends at Inner Wellth
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