Change For Your Mind
by Dr. Wolf Shipon, Clinical Director, Inner Wellth
A personal note on invisible illness and silent struggle.
All around you are people with silent struggle. Anxiety, depression, bereavement, financial troubles, caregiving for aging parents, now immigration issues, being drug-addicted, helping drug-addicted loved ones, and dealing with various insecurities, fears, and phobias.
Then add to that all the people who have serious medical stuff going on. A lot of people don't know this (somehow, because I'm fairly open about it) but in 2012 I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis and Lupus (seropositive for both) and was told I would stop working in 2-3 years by a PhD/MD in rheumatology, because most people do.
I still have 2 jobs. In fact, I work even more.
If I didn't I think I would be sicker.
What does this mean? Well, at any given moment (really) I can identify about 32 places on my body that hurt significantly, usually joints, large and small, on both sides. It ranges in pain levels on average from 3 to 10, 10 being the worst. The pain feels like a combination of sensitivity (everything hurts more, like everything is already bruised) and outright crushing vice-like pain. I describe it as having a serious toothache except it's everywhere in my body. And I am better at predicting storms than any weather forecaster. I am the forecast.
Did you know chronic pain is co-morbid with serious depression? If you cannot control the pain, you cannot control the depression, and I have seen the worst of it myself.
I push myself not to feel this way. Hemp oil has been a miracle for me and helps me almost instantaneously. I also find if I exercise I feel better, and spinning has been like a dream come true. Exercise I can actually do, and I feel better afterwards.
Maintaining my inner peace is critical. To do that, meditation has helped but honestly, fishing on my kayak is the best.
I'm stating all of this because maybe you just didn't know it about me, maybe you don't know it about someone else.
Or maybe you're going through something yourself and unlike me, you actually have a shred of dignity so won't speak of it.
I urge you to think about it, when you talk to others.
I urge you to do this especially when it is someone with whom you disagree. Maybe that person is going through something too.
And more than anything, if you are going through something yourself, talk. Keep talking. Keep telling. Keep having the courage to reveal it.
Don't keep it to yourself.
Don't go silent as I have done too many times.
That is when you become the most isolated and the most concerning.
You owe it, if not to yourself then those you love, to speak up. Get help. And be there for everyone. You never know who might really need you today.
You can get stronger and can help someone be stronger. We are all more resilient than we know.
Thank you for reading this.
Change your mind, & keep the change.
This coin reminds us about how our awareness is capable of seeing positive and negative in any situation — opposite sides of the same coin (literally!) — and how to stay positive.
An interesting game is flipping the coin and applying the side that lands to your situation, to rehearse cognitive flexibility. The instruction to name "5 Reasons to be Grateful?" on the positive side will keep you on the light side of things in playing that game.
Want one? Let us know.
The Problem: It's time to pay the bills. It's a drag and you hate it.
Change for Your Mind: It's a privilege to be able to do it. You feel grateful to have the resources to do it (or the intelligence to move around resources as needed) in order to get it done. You feel responsible and like an actual adult.
Five things to be grateful for:
1) The capacity to pay the bills, mentally and financially.
2) This is a less serious problem than other, more serious, problems.
3) You will feel like you behaved responsibly when it is done.
4) It will help remind you of how you spend.
5) It is like a clearing. It's off your plate. You can move on to more pleasurable or important things.
"Give therefore to the emperor the things that are the emperor’s, and to God the things that are God’s" - Matthew 22:21
The problem: You are feeling Stress.
The flip side of the coin: You care about something.
Five things to be grateful for:
1. Stress is your body's way of alerting you to the problem.
2. It mobilizes resources, like adrenaline, acetylcholine, and cortisol, which can help in certain situations.
3. Since your body is attended to the stress, you are likely to resolve it.
4. Since other people can perceive stress on you, you are likely to get offers of help.
5. Feeling stress is actually better for you than being afraid or sad. There is an optimal level of stress required in every human performance. Too little, it doesn't get done. Too much, it becomes overwhelming.
Don't try to eliminate stress. Manage it!
OK, you really wouldn't have to wear a tie.
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We would love to teach you to meditate.
And you will really learn this time.
Our staff member Diana will, for a 30-minute session, introduce you to the Muse Headband while using aromatherapy. The headband performs a medical-grade Electro-Encephalograph (EEG) while you calm your mind. Nature sounds playing in the background become calmer, and calmer until...
You know how to meditate. You know how to focus on your breath, undistracted. And you know precisely the moment your mind wanders (and it will), because the nature sounds immeditately become louder, getting you back on track, to calmer... and calmer.
There's no excuse not to learn meditation anymore.
It can be taught, and achieved, in mere minutes.
Please schedule a visit with Diana today for your aromatherapy and training.
Sometimes we have to jump over the thing that is in our way.
Your life is too hectic to deal with insurance companies. You have other things you could be doing.
That's why we submit to insurance for you.
We are one of the few small group practices that submits out-of-network claims to your insurance for you. Most others take your whole fee up front, and then expect you to get reimbursed. We call this taking the "whatever" approach.
The time you would take to do insurance submissions, you can use for other things.
In addition, if we get a sense from the insurance company what your fee is, we estimate your coinsurance payment, rather than taking the whole payment up front.
Our commitment is to delivering the best psychotherapy and techniques available, without so many financial headaches. As we continue our expansion, you can expect more services will be made available to you in this changing health insurance marketplace.
UPDATE 12/30/16: These positions are filled. Thank you!
Inner Wellth is now hiring independently licensed psychotherapists who are focused on providing inspirational and solution-oriented approaches to problem-solving to individuals/couples and/or groups.
New therapists must be independently New Jersey licensed Psychologists, Professional Counselors, or Clinical Social Workers. They must carry their own liability insurance. They must be warm, friendly, connected, and positive. They also must be willing to learn some of the techniques emerging out of clinical hypnosis, neurolinguistic programming (NLP), and Dr. Shipon's signature research (One Minute Healing), in order to act as a stand-in for him in providing access to these techniques. Training will be provided through the organization on these topics.
If you or someone you know meets these criteria, please contact Dr. Shipon directly at (973) 321-4380 x1 to schedule an interview and e-mail the curriculum vitae to Dr. Shipon at firstname.lastname@example.org with the subject "Therapist opening".
Thanks so much! We look forward to talking with you.
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